Monday, February 21, 2011

The Art of Silence (For Women)

Do you sometimes feel when you have a disagreement with your spouse you want to just scream from the top of your lungs? So do I! Guess what? It doesn't work! It can be so annoying and aggravating sometimes when you feel misunderstood by your spouse.  However, as I've mentioned in my previous post we must leave room for this type of disappointment.  Guys can say the most unnecessary things at times without knowing that it wasn't needed.  They don't do it intentionally all the time, they just speak before they think.  Us as women are quit different.  We analyze all the outcomes of how we say certain things.  We try to come up with the best way possible to say things, that way we don't start something up.

Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.  However, when arguing with your spouse and you feel offended/disrespected instead of yelling and getting nowhere; just be quiet.  Silence is the best thing you can do to try to get your point across.  Why?  When you are quiet you don't start something extra into the argument,  but you let it be known to your spouse that you are bothered.  Be silent for a few days until you are ready to rationally discuss how you feel. Your spouse will not like the silent treatment at all, BUT it is necessary at times.  They might say things to get you even more aggravated, however keep your cool and follow through.  None of us like to argue with our spouse, so try to avoid the arguments as much as possible.  Silence is not always a bad thing to practice.

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